Wednesday, November 21, 2012

Call a Friend

Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad. – Proverbs 12:25

The holidays can be magical and wonderful. While it's refreshing to break out of the routine, visit family, and reflect on the passing year, the season's heightened stress can also highlight areas of life we struggle with. This can drain a mom's emotional tank pretty quickly!

Today my depressing thoughts kicked and shoved me around in grand style. I feared the future; I regretted the past; I considered a thousand miserable perplexities; I engaged in a power struggle with my teenage son, which made me not only a depressed mom, but a control freak to boot! I felt unworthy and inadequate. I gushed tears on the way to the grocery store, smiled down every aisle, and drove away, a watery, sniffling basket case.

On the way home, I considered taking the kids to a movie. Maybe it would act like a “reset” button for our day. Then I remembered that, if I delayed resolving the mess between my ears, I would not fall asleep until well into the night. Already tired, I decided to prioritize getting some help. It’s much easier to reach out to a friend during daylight hours than at 2:00 a.m.!

Somehow, voicing our “stuff” to a trusted friend reduces it to a manageable size. We don’t feel so weird and different; when we share, we discover that we’re not alone. Our struggles are normal.

A friend can speak truth into our solitary, distorted reality. The dear friend I contacted vanquished my black cloud with just a few encouraging words. If I’d told myself what she said a hundred times, it would not have helped me a bit. I needed someone else to say it for me. Somehow, my friend’s input was the key to my peace.

If you struggle during the holidays, I encourage you to reach out, trusting God to lead you. Be aware that we are often the least willing to reach out when we need help the most. Send the email, open the door, take the step, pick up the phone – and let your friend pick you up. No one needs to struggle alone.

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving! (If you’re not American, have a wonderful day!)


  1. Hugs to you! So sorry to hear you are feeling down, and wishing we were closer tonight (I am in Arizona at my brother's house, dealing with our own family issues that are bringing on many tears).

  2. Thanks! I'm so sorry you are going through something similar. It is not easy. "Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion.... Resist him, firm in your faith, knowing that the same kinds of suffering are being experienced by your brotherhood throughout the world." (1 Peter 5:8-9) There's something powerful about connecting with others who are undergoing the same thing you are. I pray your Thanksgiving is blessed and peaceful. :)

  3. I'm glad you were able to address your struggles straight on, and that you had a friend who could help you see your way through. Stay strong! Visiting from Voiceboks.